I was reading Mama’s blog about her coming to the burial of her relative (just visit her blog if you're interested) . I was encouraged to think about this stuff, you know, coming to the “burial, wake” of somebody especially relatives; bringing flowers to the tomb, paying respect to the dead, etc is some kind of an awkward or theatrical stuff. am not saying am not saying the am against these nor insinuating that this must not be done coherent to our actions too.
What’s the use of bringing flowers the tomb of your family member if then when he was still alive and sick, he never saw your face nor hear your voice after you get out from that door, he was there looking at you waiting you to come back sometimes to pay him visit. To feel your hug, to hear you saying, I love you and I really do care for you mom, dad, aunt, gramma, granda, brother, sister, etc.
Did you not feel guilty in showing on the day of his burial, weeping and wiping the tears that flows in your check because you felt sorry of his or her lost. What did you do when he was still alive, did you give even just a drop of your bloody precious tears for your love and care for her, if you did, then it worth more than anything else.
Crying in grave is non sense and useless if when he or she was still alive, you never even remember calling her or greeting her on her birthday or on your birthday-thanking them coz if not because of them you’re not here now.
Paying respect to the dead “love” ones is a noble act, but giving respect to those who are still around you more noble. Livings needs love and care because they could feel it but dead cannot. Living even sick person could feel your warm touch of love but not the dead, never-not today nor tomorrow. Living could hear your sweet soft voice and feel it right away to their heart, while dead cannot. Your sick family member could feel the warm hug you can give but the dead cannot, nor he can appreciate it or give in return what you just give. He’s cold and cannot feel anything.
Ama good Christian, if that is what you want, I give due respect to the dead, but I do care more to the livings who wanted my love than the dead who never ask me anything. Dead friends or relatives never asked you to bring them flowers everyday as a sign of your love, he wants that long time ago when he was still alive so that he could appreciate it and say to you “thank you very much, I love you too, ”
So, if you think am crazy in saying these, so be it, I preferred to be tagged as crazy than to be marked as stupid (just find the real and original meaning of this word- it’s worst than you can think, especially in Latin).
You have still time to make other people happy and let them feel the care you have for them, today or maybe tomorrow but don’t wait that everything would be too late.
Except to those who have good relationship with their relatives and really love their family. And this is just one side of the coin
Give love to the Livings and not to the Dead!!